Today I just woke up as usual and thought about you, you know who. Wait a minute, just had a chit chat with my boy Sikri, and I thought what the hell ! Let me write about this.
Its been 28 days since I became a free man. Free from what, mmmh!!! Lets just say am now free. Where was I ? I was telling you about I woke up in the Morning before my mind was blown away to some random thought.
The greatest lesson I have learnt over the past days is that one has to always be true to himself. Where did and how? Trust me through experience.
Have you ever liked a girl? Hey am speaking for the guys out there. So I take it yes, so you like her and then you happen not to tell her about your feelings but you feel this sudden attraction to her. The feeling is that you want to be with her but you still think its not yet time to tell her the deal.
So the status is you have developed some feeling but you still think its not yet the time because you want her to see you as this good and charming guy that she thinks is her dream guy. What happens next ? You don't make the move. Really, what move is this?
Ever wondered, why soldiers still go to war, and they know that there is a 80% chance that they wont come back to be with their families, well it is because they believe in something and that something is the well bieng of their country and when they die in duty, they are honoured
Maybe thats too technical, I will easen it up for you. Every chess player, knows that every piece in the board is important starting from the pone that can only move one step ahead to the queen that can move in every direction with an unlimited number of steps. So if a chess player thinks that inorder for him to win the game, he has to part with his Queen he will go for it. Remember that everything even if small like the pone is powerful. Why is this the case? Once the pone reaches the other side of the board, it transforms to Queen status therefore giving you an upper hand in the game. At the back of your mind many of you may want all or most of your pones to rech the other side, but here is the catch, you have to sacrifice other pieces. Lets be real, what do we really want in the chess game? it's not many Queens or having the most pieces but to kill the King piece of the other opponent.
Back to this girl you liked and you feel that you cant tell her anything. You are now friends for weeks and still havent told her anything,eventually she opens up and she tells you her stuff and the next minute you are telling her yours.
So at the moment you think you have a better chance with her. Huuuuh!!!! Thats what you think but true to the word what you really are to her is her “Sunshine boy”.
“Sunshine boy ” not a word or phrase you would find on a dictionary, but its something my friend described to me. This is a guy, that is close to a girl and if you have been watching them closely, you may think that they are really in a relationship, truth is that its the latter. They spend most of their time together, the guy is always trying to impress her and if a there is some issue the girl wants some help, “Sunshine boy” is always there to take her or assist her.
Why am I bringing up this whole issue of “Sunshine boy”? By the word sunshine I mean this is a guy who is seen with her during the day, and acts as a barrier to other guys tht may seek to ask her out. So the girl goes on with her life, and she goes out with the man who impresses her and this is done on stealth.
So this brings me to why I brought the whole “Sunshine boy” issue into the picture, its because you become one by being friend-zoned in the first place. Reason to you being friend-zoned is that you didn't set you variable global. When you introduced yourself you presented yourself as a friend and clearly, you didn't want to be just a friend in the first place.
So guys, when you think she is the one play your cards well, and then tell her soon enough and most of be yourself. To the ladies, if you have a guy friendzoned just have the audacity to tell him eaarly enough so that he doesn't log to much of his time on charades.
Until next time